Stand by your Man

I was standing in a processional line at a funeral with a friend. There were several other ladies who were to me vague acquaintances at best. We were all talking quietly about our children having a casual conversation when all of a sudden the conversation changed from that to how their marriages were one sided and their husbands were so immature and they were “raising” them. These women were actually saying it was like having another child only their husbands ate more and threw more fits. Some even went as far to say that they would get a divorce if they could afford it. Of course, I hope they were joking. I’m almost sure some of them were, but listening to them speak about their husbands and divorce and marriage so candidly shook me. And these ladies were actually asking me questions about my husband trying to get me in on the conversation but I couldn’t bring myself to talk about him that way. I love him and more than anything and I want to spend as much time with him as I can. When I said as much to them I couldn’t believe the snobbery that was wasted on me. Like it was “cool” to talk about how your man married up and if it weren’t for you he would still be living with his mama. Well, that was an in-crowd thing I didn’t want any part of so I insisted on the fact that my husband and I don’t fight and we are so goofy about each other that we just flirt and giggle all the time and we actually enjoy our marriage. When they figured out I was serious as they were my friend said, “You’re for real aren’t you? I don’t know anybody who is as perky as you. You guys must really be happy. That’s neat that you can say that and be as sincere about it as you are.” When she said that I was heart broken to think that maybe she wasn’t as happy in her marriage as I am. In my world marriage is bliss. But what I saw of these other women was “Desperate Housewives” who had too much time and watched too much cable. If you are a wonderful lady who doesn’t wash her laundry in public, and especially at funerals, and stands by her man I commend you. Do not be fooled by the little women who stab their marriages in the back with their curses. Words are very powerful; if they’re not careful they may get what they wish.